Shortly before midnight, I picked him up from the airport, exhausted after two days of traveling. We were apart for a month, but it was something we prayed for and decided together. I stayed behind but felt like a part of what he was doing. No questions about commitment to each other entered. He is one of the nicest things about being married to your best friend.
Follow the hashtag #bestfriend on Instagram to find over 61 million images of pets, proposals, babies, teenagers and other pets. Many couples label themselves as “best friends” on social media before and after their wedding on special occasions.
Only when life partners live together in the pressure cooker of life do they go deeper than dating and develop true friendships.
Best friends are not born, they are made. Cherished friendships usually grow over time through common experiences across seasons, bringing rare understandings between two people. Some people think marriage and friendship are best kept in separate beds.
But a marriage between best friends takes both marriage and friendship to a whole new level. Here are five good things about marrying your best friend.
1. to know
Marry the person who knows you best.
Have you ever played honeymoon games at a wedding event or in a small group? Everyone wants to be a couple who knows all the answers about each other. You don’t want to be the lost partner who can’t remember your lover’s favorite drive-thru order.
Ironically, remembering your favorite comedy or the song you danced to for the first time doesn’t always indicate how good our marriage really is. “Knowing” goes far beyond the mere fact of friendship.
The same words the Bible uses to describe understanding of each other in a romantic relationship are also used to “know” each other sexually. “But those who love God are known to God.”1 Corinthians 8:3). To be truly loved is to be truly known. To be truly known is to be truly loved.
By learning to get to know each other perfectly, we can understand each other. There is no place where we can get to know our core human depths on a relationship level more than living life as partners, including sharing physical intimacy with each other. One of the best things about marrying your best friend is that it gives couples more freedom.
Friendship freedom is expressed through open communication, cooperative partnerships, and unhindered intimacy. It’s a very good thing to be fully known by a close friend with marriage partner level “clearance”.
Choose to accept your loved ones.
A husband’s love for his wife leads to acceptance. He deliberately diverts her eyes from her other priorities, accepts her, and binds himself to her, while exercising her love of her “agape” towards her. increase. This attachment decision comes from God’s design for building the best friendships. Married couples experience a certain amount of acceptance when they are fully accepted by their close friends.
Acceptance does not guarantee continued joy, cooperation or satisfaction. Instead, a marriage aimed at reaching best friend level assures both partners that if things get tough, friends aren’t going to get along. The decision to dissolve the relationship through the ups and downs shows that the relationship is just good company. We strive to expand beyond the seasons.
Honest married people will admit that they have had moments of frustration and headaches with their spouses. They recall the ‘alternatives’ that could have been best friends but did not embark on a journey of seasons and years and ups and downs to arrive at the kind of knowledge only married life could have. It may even happen. However, marrying your best friend has the advantage of allowing you to fully embrace a range of emotions.
Marrying a best friend means “the two become one.”Ephesians 5:31). Husbands and wives recognize each other and integrate their separate lives into one. We know that they have maintained their uniqueness since God created them, but strangely, to be known as oneness abounds with acceptance in that oneness. increase.
Believe in your best friend next to you.
When you are intimately known and fully accepted by your best married friend, you reach a level of security that you never thought other imperfect humans could reach. You find yourself at a table, at a seat, in bed, and online. you believe
Having a same-sex best friend is not precluded in building a relationship of trust with a marriage partner. For a husband, a companion for a man’s evening is beneficial. My wife thinks it helps to have a girlfriend to share with. In fact, the stronger her friendship with her spouse, the more freedom she has to have close friends of her own kind.
Feeling confident that your spouse can be trusted leads to a stronger bond.
Remember when you first started dating? Maybe you wondered if you were really serious about each other. Perhaps you’ve wondered if someone else has moved into your territory. Perhaps you have wondered if your spouse enjoys flirting with other people. Maybe you wanted to know who was texting. There is no substitute for time and effort when it comes to building trust between friends and even married people.
Without trust, friendships fall apart, and so does marriage. But trust has a way of building strong bonds and elevating friendships and marriages to the level of “best friends.”
I love being with my loved ones.
God gave Adam to enjoy all of creation, but He created the husband and wife so that he could enjoy only other things. Eve was not an animal! And whatever her wife may think at times, her husband is no animal either. Neither spouse was created to provide everything the other needs, but the Creator has made it clear that carefully harmonized designs are meant to bring joy.
After God acknowledged that being alone is “not good,” God created women to meet that need. God provided a worthy mate to be known, accepted, and trusted, not to be permanently separated from those who would “get” him. In the garden of the first-born creatures, God brought the first union of the flesh with the invitation to “Enjoy each other like no other.”
The invitation to know, accept, trust and enjoy each other was something special. It is as if God created marriage and friendship within their own relationship category. Few people go there for friendship or romantic relationships. Building a marriage on the best of friendships is going to a sacred place.
“Adam, friend, this is the best friend you ever wanted.”
“Eve, daughter, this is the best friend you’ve ever dreamed of.”
Just like my husband doesn’t have to be my pottery class partner, I don’t have to be his hiking companion either. It becomes more interesting when you have your own interests. But actively pursuing shared experiences and common interests can bring you one step closer to marrying your best friend.
If we live in less veiled harmony than our best friends, we miss God’s call to fully enjoy the other half of our union as one. Without pursuing deep friendships, husbands and wives risk remaining in the shallow layers of life without jumping into the purest current intended to bring them together. No one wants to stay in murky water. It tends to stagnate.
Hold your friend or spouse tight.
Deep and defined marital quality with best friends is where we want to stay. Do you suddenly feel that your marriage is no substitute for the rich life you had married to the best friend of your life? is not alone.
If you want more out of your marriage, you want exactly what God wants. He planned this amazing possibility to play out in our marriage in a powerful way. No one can pray for a wife, or for a husband as a husband prays for his wife. No one has a more perfectly secure relationship than the wife to the husband and the husband to the wife. Marriage can be a safe, powerful, and inspiring place when you’re with your best friend. When the bond of marriage becomes the bond of best friends, it can be very powerful.
Instead of marrying the wrong person or missing out on a chance to go deeper, encourage yourself that it’s not too late. Best friends are not born, they are made. Your marriage and friendship are not good enough. There is so much we can develop and discover together.
Genesis 2:24 It explains that when men and women get together, it begins to learn to “keep tight” with each other. Marriage is designed to be a safe haven of sacred security.
God wants you to have real #best friend status in your #marriage. These are five of the best things about being married to your best friend. Keep knowing, accepting, trusting, enjoying, and keeping your best married friend through prayer and the power of the Holy Spirit.
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Julie Saunders I love helping women find God’s peace in today’s difficult times.she is the author of pregnant, prayer abc for studentsis the creator of . how to walk prayer for school. She and her husband call Central Oregon her home and serve global and cross-cultural leaders.Julie can be found at julie sanders.org.