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9 Ways to Keep the Romance Alive in Your Marriage

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know. The idea of ​​maintaining romance in a marriage seems like a daunting task to many of us. It seems too much. We are just tired! Romance is no big deal. It’s about the little things we do to express our love for each other. Dan and I have been married for nearly 46 years. After all these years, it’s tempting to think Dan knows how I feel about him. But God has convinced me that maintaining romance in marriage is a great investment in our relationship with her husband, and that investment honors God.

Let me share how I am learning how to keep romance alive in our marriage. But it’s more romantic now than when we got married. And that’s a big statement! So you can make the same investment and get the same reward of a happy and healthy marriage.

1. Put Christ first.

Every relationship in our life reflects our relationship with Christ. If you want your relationships to be healthy, you must have a healthy relationship with God. Earth is not a marriage companion, but God is. God wants to use marriage, family and home to show His true nature. If you want a healthy marriage, you must put Christ first in your life.

2. Like Christ, put each other first.

After Christ comes our marriage. Not only did I hurt my relationship with Dan when I ignored it, I also sinned against God.

I thought Dan would understand that I had a busy speaking schedule and an inspiring ministry for women. Oh he got it. He understood that his wife was making time for strangers, but she didn’t have time to talk to him. There is nothing more romantic than being made to feel unimportant. Talk about a romance killer! Marriage requires a lot of effort. So is romance. A marriage must always be nurtured consistently to keep the romance alive.

3. Go back to the beginning.

Do you remember being so impressed with the qualities of your spouse when you first met them? What made them so attractive. Sift through the memories you and your spouse have created together. Those attributes that first made your spouse notice and admire will surface. Make a list of those qualities and start speaking them aloud to your spouse, children, and friends.

4. Discover your spouse’s love language and learn to speak it well.

Learning your spouse’s love language and how to speak it will ignite the flames of romance in your marriage. gary chapman book, 5 love languagesWe tend to think that everyone has the same love language. wrong. I have her two love languages: time and gifts. My husband’s love language is touch. It can be as simple as holding hands or scratching his back, but as long as you touch him, he will feel loved.

I recently had Covid and was pretty sick. So Dan shifted into high gear. He knew how much I love soup, so he made 3 different soups for me. He always made sure I had something to drink. The words “Honey, do you need anything?” became his mantra. Dan willingly became my servant.

Sidebar: My whole family knows how much I love chocolate-covered cherries. A box of these delicious treats is always in my Christmas stocking. said. When he got home, he heard the rustling of shopping bags. My sweet husband walked into the bedroom with the best smile on his face and a box of chocolate covered cherries in his hand. My husband never had to utter a word, but he was speaking my love language through time and gifts.

5. Set aside an hour to speak each day.

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I remember the day I realized my family schedule was completely out of control. Every day I was running like crazy between school, church, football, soccer, cheerleading and birthday parties. Dan was the senior pastor of a large, explosively growing church. The phone was ringing constantly. An important meeting, hospital visit, or some kind of counseling session seemed to take place every night.

Something had to give! Our marriage was on the back burner and I could feel our relationship beginning to fall apart. A trip to the furniture store became a turning point in our marriage.

I bought a loveseat for my bedroom. We didn’t have room for that little sofa, but we made it. And every night, Dan and I would sit in that loveseat for at least an hour and talk about our days. rice field. It was amazing! Laughter replaced tears. The issue has been resolved. Fear has been replaced by peace. When one dream disappeared, we had another dream as we sat opposite each other.

Spending time together every day was not easy. So many voices have come to our attention, but as we have spoken and shared our hearts, we have learned to hear God’s voice above all else. , promise to spend time with each other every day.

6. Let’s have fun together. Don’t forget how to laugh.

I don’t know about you, but it seems like helicopters are constantly landing in our lives. Do you remember having fun? Laughter?

Date night seems to have become a requirement for having fun with your spouse. Spending time away from home is great, of course, but curling up in the living room with popcorn and ice cream and watching a movie is fun too.

We often have the wrong idea when it comes to love. Romance doesn’t have to be complicated. Conversations do not need to be scripted. Share whatever comes to your mind and heart. I love the truth that the more days I laugh, the more days I laugh with my peers.

7. Keep a long-term view.

Tyranny of little things can harm a marriage. A credit card surcharge, a messy house, or a bit of an angry word—does any of these things matter when your spouse is gone? please. Is the thing that annoys you today important in the grand scheme of things? Left alone, small annoyances can snowball into major obstacles.

Learning to discern what is important in a marriage is essential to its success. Romance has died at the altar of what seemed important and urgent in many marriages. A lifelong commitment and love.

You can get into the habit of ignoring the little things and focusing on the big things like love, patience, kindness, goodwill, and self-control. Romance thrives when we choose to look beyond our spouse’s shortcomings and see their needs.

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8. Be groomed.

Oh boy! I know I’m nervous about this. But I also know I’m guilty of just letting go of my appearance. Because after all, Dan is the only one who sees me. right? Since Covid first started, I’ve battled lazy attitudes about my appearance. Baggy pants, t-shirts, and sweatshirts can be my wardrobe for the day. may be trimmed. make up? It’s only the day you go out. I’m just keeping it real.

I remember when I was dating Dan. I had very little money, but I could always find a way to dress him in a way that I found attractive, and Dan was important to me. He didn’t love me because of the way I dressed, but I loved him and I wanted him to be proud of how I looked.

women often hide behind 1 Peter 3:3-4 Regarding appearance. But read these verses carefully. Peter warns us that our appearance should not be the only source of beauty.

1 Peter 3:3-4 “Don’t let your adornments be mere appearances, such as having your hair done, wearing gold, or wearing fine clothes. God’s sight.”

Yes, God is more interested in who we are than what we look like. A calm and quiet spirit is far more important than our outward appearance, such as our clothes, hairstyles and makeup. i know that. Having an inner source of beauty, however, does not mean that you should ignore your outward appearance in order to be godly. After all, I am the King’s child. I want to dress like a king’s child. Does that mean I have to wear designer clothes? no! I have shopping rules. When he showers, does his hair, puts on a little make-up, puts on nice clothes, and tells Dan that he did it all just for him, you can see the spark of romance in his eyes. rice field.

9. Keep your love life interesting.

Your love life tends to be, well, a little boring and routine. We know this is a complicated issue for many couples. But a thriving love life refers to a healthy sex life and an intimate life. Intimacy is an important part of marriage and may be the most important part of your love life. Sex and intimacy are not the same thing.

I have a diabetic friend. He is on some powerful drugs that make sex impossible. But he will tell you that he has a surprisingly intimate love life with his wife, and he can share absolutely anything with her. They talk about everything in life: problems, dreams, hopes, desires, concerns.

When it comes to the sexual part of your marriage, it’s never too late to mix things up.Be creative! enjoy! Dan had a meeting late one night, so I put the kids to bed and geared up. The plan was to start by hanging rose petals from the front door leading to our bedroom. Dan found some burning candles, chocolate-covered strawberries, and me.

For Valentine’s Day, I covered my bathroom and bedroom with strategically placed red and pink hearts. Told. The light switch had a heart in it that read, “You turn me on.” Dan wouldn’t let me beat them. Those hearts remained put for weeks.

You can really rekindle the romance in your marriage.God is with you for the success of your marriage. So take a deep breath and go for it!

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Mary Southerland She is also co-founder of Girlfriends in God, a conference and dedicated ministry for women. In her book of her Mary, Hope in the midst of depression, sandpaper people, escaping the stress trap, and experiencing the power of God in your ministry, 10-Day Trust Adventure, You Make Me So Angry, How to Study the Bible, Fit for Life, Joy for the Journeyand life is so everyday. Mary as wife and mother of two children, Jared and Danna, and Mimi enjoys the ministry of her six grandchildren: Jadan, Lelia, Justus, Hudson, Mo, and Nori.

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