“When you are cornered and everything is going wrong, don’t give up until it seems like you can’t wait another minute, because that is when and where the tide will turn.”
Harriet Beecher Stowe
Some days are bright and inspiring. Some days are simply routine.
And one day you may think to yourself, “I give up.”
You may just want to give up…
- New habits of working out and eating healthier.
- Your own small business or blog because you didn’t get the results you expected or wanted.
- very feel better about yourself.
- You date because you can’t find the right person or make a good date at all.
Being involved in such situations is a normal part of making positive changes in your life.
But what you do when you feel like giving up can make a big difference in how your life ends.
In today’s post, I’d like to share 10 things that helped me get through the tough days or turn around.
1. Use realistic expectations.
this is very important to me.
Instead of listening to advertising that promises quick results, listen to realistic expectations. Not by listening to the perfectionism of others and myself, which does not allow mistakes and failures.
Listen to people who have already been where you want to go and take advantage of that.
Listen to people who know what works and what stumbles and fails along the way.
You probably won’t get an accurate blueprint. But what people tell you in person or in books and blogs can be excellent guidance.
2. Remember why you are doing this.
In our busy lives, it’s easy to lose sight of the big picture.
But if you feel like giving up, think again about why you’re doing what you’re doing.
- Keep your family safe and support them.
- To watch over your child’s growth, live a long and healthy life.
- See the world and explore new things.
Write down your answer.
Then, whenever you feel like giving up, pull out a piece of paper with your strongest reason. It often helps.
3. Remember: It’s darkest before dawn.
This thought helped me persevere when things felt so hard that I wanted to give up and go home.
Whenever your motivation in your blog, business, dating life, or life in general seems to be at its worst, something always happens.
Probably because, quite often, being at that low point forced me to change my ways.
But if I keep going, maybe it’s because life seems to maintain a certain balance. happen.
Seeing this repetition in itself reinforced my belief in taking action and continuing even through difficult days and weeks.
And even when things look pretty bleak, it brings some comfort.
4. Back to basics.
When you hit a plateau or a longer rough patch, one thing that often helps is to simplify and reconnect to the basics.
It’s easy to get overwhelmed with all the information that can change your life.
This can be confusing and trying to do too many things at once.
In those situations, simplification helped.
Concentrating on some or one of the things I have learned is the basic foundation of this area of life. to improve social skills Those were, for example, maintaining a positive attitude and building close relationships.
5. Learn more and modify your course.
Reconnecting to basics often works. But when it was a rough patch or when I felt stuck, it was helpful to change course a bit instead.
To see how I do things, what the results are, and compare it to how people who have done it before me do things.
I’ll be honest with myself and admit that a thing or two, or a small part of it, that I’m doing isn’t working.
And based on what others have done in the past, replace them for a while to see if it works better.
Even if it means having to step out of your comfort zone.
6. Tell yourself: Just for today!
Here’s a short phrase from Brian Tracy that I often use when I’m having a bad day with a new habit.
I say to myself: Only today I will XX!
Replace XX with something you do just for today, such as working out, doing your most important tasks first, or eating a healthy lunch.
Telling yourself to just do it today has two big benefits.
- Release the mental burden of doing it in the past and the mental burden of trying to do it in the future. So the task becomes much lighter and the internal resistance melts away.
- It also serves as a reminder that the period you are investing in changing your habits is not the rest of your life. After 30 days or so, the habit is almost automatic and won’t require willpower for years or decades to come.
And when tomorrow comes, you’ll probably have a better day with less resistance, and you’ll probably feel like doing the task again.
7. Connect with the people around you to vent it (and reload your motivation).
When a hurdle seems insurmountable, or when you don’t have the energy to tackle another obstacle, one thing that can help Ton is to just be open about it.
Talk to your wife, friends, or parents about it. To vent, to understand things by yourself while the other party listens. And when you need it, you can get calm, experienced advice.
This replenishes my energy and motivation.
If you’re having trouble finding someone to open up to at the moment, or if the people in your life are having trouble understanding or helping you with your current challenges, for example, find a supportive Facebook You can search for groups or other groups online.
8. Look back and celebrate your progress.
When you feel like giving up or feel overwhelmed and tired, it’s easy to lose sight of what you’ve actually accomplished so far.
Things learned, steps accomplished, obstacles overcome.
Think back on those things when you feel like giving up. Appreciate and celebrate the things you’ve done to move yourself toward your goals. Please rate your efforts so far.
This will help you change your perspective to a more optimistic one again and find new steps to keep moving forward.
9. Cut the slack and take a break.
Yes, you may just want to give up. However, my experience can sometimes simply indicate that you need a well-deserved break after doing too much work or trying to stick to an overly optimistic time plan.
In that case, listen to your body and mind.
Take a few hours or days off. Rest, recuperate, and forget about any tasks, projects, or anything else you want to give up in the meantime.
This can do wonders for your mood and recharge your batteries.
10. See if it’s time to stop and try something else.
Sometimes it’s not the time to give up. However, it may be time to stop what you are doing and try something else.
If you feel like giving up, are very bored, or don’t feel any real passion, excitement, or curiosity about change and your current path, ask yourself these two questions:
- Are you doing it because you really want it?
- Or do I do it because someone told me to do it, or because so many people around me have done it or seem to be working on it?
However, it’s not easy to know what you need before you start. You may have to try different paths before finding the one that’s right for you.
And just because everyone around you seems to love running doesn’t mean you have to love it or give up your regular exercise routine.
Try walking, cycling, badminton, or playing table tennis instead. Try new ways to do what you want and see if it works better and is more fun for you.