“Don’t wait for your feelings to change before you act. If you act, your feelings will change.” ~ Barbara Barron
You’re stuck because you’re waiting I want to try Know what you need to improve. I’m not doing what I know I should be doing because I don’t want to offend and I already feel bad. You are already doing things you don’t want to do. Why not choose to do something you don’t want to do to actually move you forward?
Waiting for you to want to make a difference will keep you stagnant.
I was stuck in misery and self-loathing for most of my life. I knew there was something to help me: diet, exercise, therapy. I also knew there was a part of me that I was afraid to admit or face. Such as how selfish I am, how poor my attitude is about almost everything, or how I felt used by men when I was also using them.
We all have a shadow side. We all have shame and guilt. We are all completely imperfect. When I stopped running and stopped trying to hide these parts of myself from myself and others, I had space to heal and nurture myself. I had a space to step into, which led to the next step.
What you need to start with depends on your level of depression, misery, or disconnection between yourself and your spirit.
If you hate yourself and your life and can’t get out of bed, start with mirror work. Most of us have trouble looking at ourselves in the mirror. Instead of looking at others, you have to look at yourself. But over time, when you start saying words of love to yourself, it becomes easier to challenge that judgment.
Let’s start with the simple things. Put your hand on your heart and say to yourself, “I’m going to love you.” “I want to learn to love you.” “I love you.” Repeat this over and over.
If you need a friend to come pick you up from your bed, call them and ask them.
You may fear that feeling like you are the only one suffering or asking for help means that you are weak, inferior, or burdened. But no one has it perfectly. And while people want to help, we often don’t know how or what to do. It’s okay to ask for help. Asking for help is brave and takes courage. Give yourself props for having the courage to ask for help.
You don’t have to make big changes all at once to make your life better. Doing small things keeps you moving forward. But you may resist even small things.
Let’s say a friend suggests drawing, journaling, taking a walk in nature, meditating, or stretching. You’ll probably say, “I don’t want to do that.” Perhaps you have received this advice before. Pick the one you’ve heard most often, or the one you’re most resistant to.
For example, let’s use a picture. Your reflexive response might say, “I’m not an artist” or “I’m not creative.” That’s a lie. It’s your mind trying to stay where you are. Even if you are in an emotionally difficult situation, the current situation is good for your brain. It’s what your mind and body are used to.
We are all creative beings with infinite knowledge within us. we have the ability to heal ourselves. To reconnect ourselves to something greater than our minds and thoughts. You have that power within you, but you have to take a different approach to what you are already doing. It means doing something you don’t want to do.
Ask yourself: What is the smallest step that moves me forward, the smallest thing that I do not want to do?
For me, it was to commit to three minutes of meditation each day, which I knew was an attainable goal. Once I got into practice, I found that it usually takes more than 3 minutes. It was often uncomfortable and uncomfortable at first, but after a few months I really started to enjoy it. Sometimes, my mind expands, my mind is filled with only positive thoughts, and I feel like pure bliss.
I now spend 10-20 minutes a day meditating. Once it became a habit, I added to it.
Meditation helped me pause and be interested in my thoughts instead of getting lost in them.
For example, “OMG I haven’t heard from him in two days. He shouldn’t like me. I suck. No one is going to pick me. I’m so bored. You should text.Wait, no, don’t text him…”
Thanks to mediation, I am now able to hear my first thoughts. “Oh, I haven’t heard from him in his two days.”
With consistent practice, I have learned to pause and change the course of my thoughts.
So now my inner dialogue is, “He’s probably busy, but if he doesn’t like me, it’s okay because I like me. What I can do in this moment brings me joy.” What is?”
Mediation has also helped my hidden parts come forward and create space for creative ideas to surface. If you constantly ruminate and have negative and critical thoughts about yourself and others, there is no room for creative, loving, supportive, and healing thoughts to arise.
I have been on the road to recovery and healing from trauma for many years. There were times when I was frustrated and set back, but my life changed when I made it a habit to do what I didn’t want to do. All by committing to take simple, small steps.
Commit to doing the little things you don’t want to do every day for 100 days and see what happens. Get ready to have your mind blown.
About Katie Creel
Katie Creel has been an RN for 18 years.she is the owner of Orenda Life Coaching, LLC, she practices as a Certified Health and Life Coach and a Certified Creative Insight Journey Instructor. Katie believes we have the power within ourselves to create the changes we need to create the life we want. She teaches tools and exercises that help us regain our intuition and creativity. .
