Of all the relationships we experience, marriage has the unique power to do many things in life. . It forms the backbone of families and communities, making them stronger or weaker. It is a monument of mundane moments all formed together to create something that, if properly cared for, can reflect the heart of God. It’s also a big battlefield.
Every place of influence and importance in our lives has a red-hot target for our soul enemies to pursue their ultimate goals.of John 10:10Jesus said. I came that they might have life and have it in abundance. ”
Our marriage will face the thief Jesus warned us about. And he sometimes tempts us violently, as if it were not the thief himself, but his consort.
In moments when you feel like your husband has turned against you, try to pick yourself up, calm your thoughts and feelings, and get a better handle on your emotional reactions.
Here are five practical steps to keep your perspective centered on the truth when your husband feels like an enemy.
1. Protect your mind by removing non-biblical, perspective-affecting input.
Social media, television, movies, music, friends and family speak to your heart with unscriptural grievances about your marriage. Some might argue that they should not have a place in the lives of Christ-following women. But block out those negative emotional effects, especially in those moments when you’re tempted to view your marriage in such hostile terms.
2. Remember that your spouse may be facing the exact same spiritual bait to feel that you are their enemy!
Often our soul enemies turn us against each other at the exact moment when we need to team up to defeat our real enemies!
3. Speak honestly to your heart about your husband and your marriage.
Instead of repeating the hurtful things, remember the blessings God has brought to your marriage and the good He has brought to you through your husband.
4. Pray for yourself and your husband!
During our journey, especially when we hit rock bottom, I took my frustrations out to the Lord. And I felt a deep conviction in the fact that I had let disappointment pull my heart away from my once devoted and fervent prayers for my role as her wife. For my husband, and our marriage in general. No wonder this difficult time was even harder. We often talk about keeping our intimate passions alive, but what about the passions of our marriage prayers? Are they hardworking? are they passionate? do they expect?
Below is a bible prayer that I use regularly to guide me in my own prayers for my husband and marriage.
Thank you, Lord, that You have begun the good work in ________________________ (husband’s name) and have been faithful to complete it! Show me your hands at work in the ____ area. Grant me grace and faith that you work even when I cannot see. Help me rest in your faithfulness in working for both of us. Follow your joy in ______________________ (husband’s name) and accomplish everything that is in your heart. (based on Philippians 1:6 and 2:13).
The eyes of ________________ (husband’s name) heart are opened, and what are the hopes of your calling, what are the glorious riches of your heritage of the saints, and what are the extraordinary greatness of your powers. I pray that he will come to know that you are towards him when he believes you are. (based on Ephesians 1:18-19)
Lord, remind my husband that all things are possible through Christ, who strengthens him. Send your Spirit to encourage him today! And make me part of your plan of encouragement for him. (based on Philippians 4:13)
Father, let my man grow into the spiritual leader you desire. Give him the desire to lead our home. At the same time, give him the heart to explore your words so that he can gain your perspective, wisdom and guidance.Deepen his understanding with your words and your ways so that his walking with you will bring leadership and blessings to our marriage and family. 1 Timothy 2:11, 1 Corinthians 14:35).
Lord, surround my husband with your grace as a shield. (based on Psalm 5:12)
Lord, make me a joyful wife and please my husband. Let our marriage and love be his source of joy and fulfillment. (based on proverbs 5).
Father, lead ________________ (husband’s name) to be vigilant, to stand firm in his faith, to act like a man, and to be strong in Christ. Give him sufficient grace and strength for those battles so that he may follow Your guidance, heed the spiritual battles, and stand firm for Your glory. (based on 1 Corinthians 16:13.)
5. Correctly identify the true causes of marital disputes.
This involves prayer and holding on to hard-to-swallow truths about yourself. Not only can her husband suffer from the feeling that we are against him in the same way that we feel against her husband, but her enemy is us. against her spouse. We must recognize this and protect our lives from this possibility. It is interesting to note that Job’s wife (who was spiritually one with Job before God) opposed him when he allowed him to touch the .Job 2:9). To her utter disappointment, the moment of intense civil war in her heart against her husband corresponds to the moment when God used him in an important way, or when the enemy is on his trail. How sad it is that all of us can be taken advantage of by our enemies unless we carefully guard our hearts and make sure that we are in complete submission to God and His purposes.
When you present yourself to someone as a slave of obedience, do you not know that you are a slave to the one who obeys, a slave to whether sin brings death or obedience brings justice? But even though you were a slave to sin, thank God that you became a slave to righteousness, being truly obedient to that form of teaching to which you were devoted, freed from sin. . Romans 6:16-18
It is wise to check your mind with the question, Am I presenting my thoughts, feelings, words, and actions as instruments for serving Christ?
In general, if we are a firm follower of Christ, we will not regard others as enemies.
Paul says this.
Finally, be strong in the Lord and in His power. Put on the full armor of God so that you can stand against the machinations of the devil. Our battle is not against flesh and blood, but against rulers, against powers, against the forces of this dark world, against the evil spiritual forces of the heavenly place. Ephesians 6:10-12
If you perceive a person, especially your other half, as an enemy, you may face spiritual problems. The winning battle perspective is not to draw a line between our spouse and us. It’s about identifying who your opponent is in the fight. Not a spouse, but an enemy of our soul.
Over the years I have struggled to understand and have found great marriage tools. And despite not finding the all-purpose, guaranteed-satisfaction technique I first set out to discover, perseverance, time and time again, has been the key to unlocking victory for me. It’s not an attractive solution, but it’s still biblical and, in my experience, practical. After all, “Love is patient” is the first characterization of love in the famous “Love Chapter” of 1 Corinthians. I can’t stand once or twice. Expressions of love always require patience.
Some of the most promising marriage wisdom I received was an impromptu comment from my dear grandmother. I stepped into the house for she thought. It is a complete surprise to me that in our eighties we would find so much joy in our relationship. After suffering, after suffering each other, all suffering is over. And we just enjoy each other. ”
I pray that you and your spouse will soon find an oasis where your struggles will rest. And you will be restored together in God’s love and care. Devoted love, underlying truth, will take you from battle to victory.
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