“Don’t dwell on the past, don’t dream of the future, focus on the present moment.”
There is only one time and place you are in and can control.
However, most of us still spend much of our daily lives in our memories, reminiscing about sunny vacations and replaying old conflicts and negative situations in our heads.
Or get lost in scenarios about what might happen in the future. Maybe through hopeful fantasies.
Or maybe by building monsters in our minds as thoughts spin and create terrifying and dangerous mountains out of molehills and air.
Or your thoughts may be split and unfocused between several different things or tasks.
If you spend a lot of your everyday moments and time thinking about the future or the past, or if you find it difficult to focus and feel that this might be affecting your life negatively, focus more on the present moment. You may want to learn to live.
Here’s what helps me do it. Some simple things that I use in my daily life.
1. Single task, not just work.
I and many others have often written and spoken about the importance of single-tasking in order to be more effective at work.
I’ve found that focusing all my tasks on one task as much as possible makes it easier to stay in place for more time throughout the day.
This means avoiding tabs when browsing the internet and focusing on one thing online at a time. I try to watch TV, so it means I don’t use my smartphone or computer.
Alternatively, you can use these internet devices during your conversation.
Get your day off to a good start and set your mood by doing one thing as soon as you wake up.
If you need to multitask, try setting specific times of the day. About an hour in the afternoon.
2. Do it slowly.
When you wake up and start doing your first thing of the day, slow down a bit.
And do a few things at a relaxed, calm pace: It won’t take much longer than if you did it quickly.
You will find it easier to stay in the present, focus on everything you do, and find the simple joys and tranquility in it.
Rather than quickly adding stress and getting bogged down in worries or looping about what’s going to happen today before you eat breakfast, do so.
And when you move through the day, try to do it as slowly as possible.
3. Tell yourself: Now I…
When I do something, I say to myself this in my mind: Now I am X.
For example, if I’m brushing my teeth, I say to myself: Now I’m brushing my teeth.
This habit may be most important when doing things that tend to drift into the future or the past. Like when you’re brushing your hair or teeth, or when you’re walking to the supermarket.
I don’t say this line to myself all the time, but I say it several times a day.
4. Minimize what you put on your mind early in the day.
I’ve found that checking email, Facebook, and other websites online earlier in the day has more thoughts running through my head.
This makes it very difficult to focus, to stay in the present and not get dragged into negative thought loops.
So the kind option for me was to check nothing earlier in the day. And avoid checking as much as possible.
Minimizing such things not only makes my day lighter and simpler, allowing me to stay in the present more easily, but also tends to get more important things done.
5. No, no, no + reconnect here now.
The four tips above make it easy to stay in the present moment and use it to your fullest.
But every day, I still drift into the past or the future.
if you have read mine self-respect Then I know that I often use stopwords and phrases to quickly sabotage and stop internal critics and harmful trains of thought.
As soon as I realize that my thoughts have drifted away, I say to myself: No, no, no.
Then immediately use all your senses for a minute or two to bring yourself back to the present moment, focusing solely on your breathing or whatever is happening around you.