Ephesians 6:1 “Children, obey your parents in the Lord. This is right.” Deuteronomy 5:16“Honor your father and mother, as the LORD your God has commanded you, and you may live a long and happy life in the land the LORD your God is giving you.” As we can see from these verses, children are told to obey their parents in the Lord, but what does this mean for adult children?
Obedience “to the Lord”
When God tells us to obey our parents, God tells us to obey our parents mainlyThis means that we obey our parents only in areas that are consistent with what the Bible teaches. Even if your parents tell you to do something unscriptural, you don’t have to do it. For example, if your parents tell you to hurt yourself, hurt someone, or lie, this is not correct. We are not obligated to follow these rules. If your parents tell you to do something unscriptural, you are not obligated to do what they say.
We know that when we are children we have to obey our parents in the Lord, but what happens when we grow up? Are we still obligated to obey our parents? The answer is the same. Even grown-up children should obey their parents in the Lord. No matter how old you are, you should obey your parents in the Lord. Again, the key word is “in the Lord.” We are not expected to obey our parents in everything they ask of us. We do not have to follow them if their demands and desires do not align with the Bible or with God’s purpose for our lives. Our parents are our parents, but their statements and decisions are no more powerful than what God is telling us in His Word.
God’s Word is the perfect guidebook to help you make the right decisions. If we follow God’s teachings in His Word, we will be able to serve God better and remain fully devoted to Him. Many of our earthly fathers let us down, but we all have earthly fathers. is either As is often the case with earthly fathers, God is our Heavenly Father. You love us more than any father on earth. God’s love for us is immense and unquenchable.
God’s love for us is so great that we know we can follow the teachings of the Bible. God is love. In other words, God loves us unconditionally and forever. He is the very personification of love. We know that we can trust and obey Him because He loves us. Bible teaching helps us, not hinders us. Our parents may teach us bad or immoral rules, but we can always trust God’s teachings as outlined in the Bible. He will never hurt or harm us. The Lord is always with us and wants us to grow in Him.
complicated situation
Some of our parents can be very sensitive when it comes to matters of obedience, so we should always weigh what they say against the Bible. They must obey their parents. Many parents have a hard time letting their adult children make their own decisions, sometimes even suffocating. They may be, but know that you don’t have to follow them unless they are in line with God’s word.
For example, when my mother was still alive, her rule for my sister and me was that we couldn’t leave the house until we were married. This was a common practice in my family, but the idea of moving out until I got married didn’t make sense to me. Because of this rule my mother set, I couldn’t move unless I was single. I remember being a teenager when my mother said this.While walking back to the living room with my sisters, I told them, “I’ll never leave the house.” It remains a joke between my sisters and I, but it was a terrifying thought to me at the time.
It is unreasonable to make a rule that you can’t leave your parent’s house unless you get married. Nowhere in the Bible does it say you have to get married before you move. Therefore, this rule is not biblically correct and there is no reason for my sister and I to follow it. Rather, the rule of “move when financially stable” was more appropriate. Getting married as a prerequisite to moving should never be forced on anyone’s head. If anything, I feel like I can’t live alone without a spouse.
You may have had similar rules in your home growing up, and the same rules may have been imposed on you as an adult. Growing up means making more of your own decisions, but you still need to obey your parents in the Lord. You should always be respectful and polite to your parents, even if they don’t behave the same way. Most of the time, when we go against our parents’ unscriptural rules and teachings, our parents get angry and even angry with us. This is when you need to tell your parents that their rules or teachings do not follow the Bible.
need for respect
You should be respectful when talking to parents about these issues. Don’t be rude or impertinent to your parents. Instead, give them the proper respect and point out what God says in the Bible. Parents like to think they know best. Also, to some extent, they can help us in many ways, but parents are not gods. God only knows if they gave us great advice. It is always the best course of action to follow what God says rather than what others say. If your parents make a rule about not telling a lie, it follows the Bible, so even when you grow up, you need to follow this rule. But you are not obligated to follow your parents’ teachings that go against the Word of God.
Thus, even though we are grown children, we must obey our parents in the Lord. When the Bible commands us to be in the Lord and obey our parents, it means that we are obligated to do only what they ask of us according to the Bible. We are not obligated to obey them if what we say is not based on the Bible. This is right and it pleases God when we obey Him.
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Vivian Bricker Help those who love Jesus, learn the Word of God, and walk with Christ. She earned her bachelor’s and master’s degrees from the Ministry of Christianity with an emphasis on theology. Her favorite things to do are spending time with her family and friends, reading, and spending time outside. When she’s not writing, she’s embarking on other adventures.
