It’s not about letting go. Instead of ‘Let it go’ you should say ‘Let it be’. ~Jon Kabat-Zinn
When I was in my twenties, I went to see an acupuncturist after going through a severe heartbreak and feeling unsure about my life path and purpose. “I went” is a kind way of saying. dragged. I didn’t want to go, but I figured that my family was going and that they might support me through everything I was going through.
I was dealing with a lot of rough emotions and felt like I was on a roller coaster ride on a daily basis. I was so angry because life had taken me down that path and I hadn’t seen the farewell coming.
I kept repeating this mental story for months. My biggest trigger was thinking about the mistakes I had made.
It was a whirlwind of unhealthy relationships. Looking back, I didn’t know how it happened, but I knew I had been unfaithful to myself and others.
I felt like my boyfriend wanted me to change and didn’t accept me. bottom. Over time, I became quieter and more open to his opinions on how I should be. I tried to change myself to please him.
I realize now that his controlling and manipulative behavior stems from his own insecurities and fear of losing me, but I didn’t realize it at the time. I thought it was my fault, and that there was something wrong with me.
About a year later, when I went to my first acupuncture clinic, I was surprised when she tried to talk to me about letting go. I was.
I had to let go of all my past feelings, thoughts, and things that didn’t go my way. Contrary to what my acupuncturist suggested, I have found that letting go is easier said than done. Letting go is not a one-time thing. time consuming.
Looking back, I can see that there were many layers to letting go. For example, looking at the situation from a different perspective (we realize we all want love, so it makes sense that sometimes we stay in unhappy relationships), forgiving ourselves and others things (because I’m working directly on distancing myself from the world, spending time alone, and releasing my feelings through movement.
I had a lot of emotions that I had to process, but I didn’t want to talk to others about it, write an unsent letter to tell them what I needed to say, and ultimately hope for a healthier future. I was able to dream and experience a new present.
However, none of these actions resulted in immediate relief. It was different than opening your hand to drop a bottle. It was like shedding layers and discovering new layers when the old ones disappeared.It was like seeing myself through new eyes and discovering more about my heart and soul.
Letting go wasn’t about getting over it or feeling nothing. It was about learning more about myself and pulling the stitches over time.
This is true of many of life’s painful experiences and lessons. They are often repeated, and each time you feel disappointed to be in the same space, or frustrated that you didn’t let go of what hurts, you are reminded that evolution, growth, and expansion are not a one-time thing—them. is constant.
If there is one important thing for me to learn, it can take time and involve many elements.
If, like me, you have a hard time letting go and want to move on, remember that many streams lead to the ocean. And let go of the idea that there is an end point or that letting go is instant. Then you can embrace the learning and move naturally from the past step by step.
About Orly Levi
Orly Levy is an intuitive life coach and writer. She offers guidance to sensitive souls who are struggling to see their own gifts. Through her one-on-one programs, she guides others to see them “as they are”, release blocks, reconnect with their intuition, and discover true peace.visit her virtual home Follow her by scheduling a free session for tools Instagram.