I always understood good sex to include an orgasm and a connection with the person I slept with.but great considerate Mentally, physically and spiritually enlightening sex for all involved is like watching Queen Rania speak. I left the experience feeling competent and empowered, my body flooded with confetti.
When I started having great mindful sex (I didn’t start until I turned 40), I noticed changes in other areas of my life. Work felt more fulfilling and friendships felt more meaningful. I wanted to take better care of my body and mind. I also swear I started walking a little taller. As I continue to feel that way at 41, I realized the point. Mindful sex extends bliss beyond the sheets. Because great sex is a portal. Not only does it bring happiness to our lives, it’s a pillar of health, a way to connect with ourselves and others (or others), and a beautiful right we all deserve.
Featured image from an interview with Remi Ishizuka by Michelle Nash.
Expert Answers: What Is Mindful Sex
But as incredible as mindful sex can be, it can also be a mystery. Lack of connections, health issues, prejudices and many other things can get in our way. That’s why we need to talk more and more about it. So I called on his two brilliant minds in this area. Cindy Barshopfounder of VSPOT, an intimate sexual clinic for women, and Dr. Monica GloverA board certified gynecologist and VSPOT’s double board chief medical officer, she discusses women’s intimate health, why mindful sex is so important, and how you can do it.
Because when we have the mindful sex we want and talk openly about it, be careful. we can: everything.
Why Women Need More Intimate Sexual Care Support
“We’re just beginning to realize how many things affect the intimate lives of women today,” Vershop tells me. Too many women don’t enjoy the intimacy and connection they deserve. “Sex doesn’t feel good,” she added. “It’s like, let’s do that and move on to the next thing.” That’s why Barshop was founded. VSPOT: To provide women with a place to talk nonjudgmentally about their sexual and intimate health concerns and needs, and to connect with resources for treatment. “It’s incredible how many women have sex and intimacy issues, but we don’t discuss this issue enough.”
How much time do we spend focusing on ourselves, self-care, and what makes us happy? — Monica Glover, Ph.D.
In addition, women should be examined in an examination room for at least 10 minutes, which is very common in Western medicine today. “It’s a shame,” says Dr. Gordon. “Not only are women hesitant to talk about these symptoms in a typical doctor’s office, doctors aren’t even allowed to listen.” You need space, freedom, and support to ask questions and learn.
How Mindful Sex Affects Our Lives
Sex is more than sex. It’s the way to more and deeper things in our lives. But too often it gets sidetracked and “fogged,” Dr. Glover says. “Women perceive it as a hassle, pain, or not fun because of life stressors, health conditions, menopause, and more.”
This is a disadvantage for us, because sex makes us feel good. “It’s physiological,” Dr. Glover added. “Having an orgasm releases oxytocin, norepinephrine, dopamine, serotonin, and all the happy neurotransmitters that make you feel great about yourself.” It may help prevent certain illnesses and diseases. “We should focus on sexual health because it helps with depression.” Additionally, research shows that sex can: Increased productivity.
Barshop says: “Great sex makes the body stronger and healthier. It changes everything.”
How to have great, mindful sex
In my conversations with Barshop and Dr. Glover, I deduced three points about how to enrich your sex life.
#1: You have to be bold in the clinic and discuss your sexual frustration and desires.
“Keep these conversations open,” Dr. Glover says. “Say, ‘I’m here because I want to talk about the fact that my vagina is dry or I can’t have an orgasm.’ That’s my main complaint.” is the only way to raise awareness about this issue. ”
#2: Mindful sex can be done with other people or by ourselves.
Whatever it is, let’s take a closer look at the amazing products available today. Encourages more flow in any scenario, from vibrators to lubricants. “You don’t need a partner,” Dr. Glover says. “Sometimes it’s better to do it yourself!”
#3: You’re not the only one with sexual health hiccups.
There is a growing community revolutionizing sexual health outside the medical world, such as Barshop and Dr. Glover’s VSPOT efforts. “Now we have a place where we can spend his hour with you guys and consider all the solutions,” Dr. Glover says. “What we can give women is toolThat way they can find that happiness again when they get home. ”
Like anything worthwhile, mindful sex requires deeper knowledge and connection with oneself. Our instincts may be to quiet our desires and avoid talking about sexual issues and desires. Don’t do that, says Dr. Vershop and Glover. We must speak openly with our doctors, partners and friends.
Start normalizing and prioritizing your sexual health through honesty and belief. Then we can all have more mindful sex and feel empowered for whatever we want to do.